I feel a little bit out of my depth here and therefore this post won't be full of the world's statistics, because I don't think anorexic people are looking for that, they need support, advice or help. When people here the term anorexic or bulimic, they automatically think, she thinks she's fat, she starves herself or binge eats. But that's part of the problem.
Some girls who are anorexic or bulimic do do it because they feel fat when they're actually incredibly thin and getting thinner all the time. But that's not the only reason. I've never personally had or dealt with an eating disorder, but I know girls who have. A lot of the time, they may just want to feel in control of something if the rest of their life is spiralling out of control. Perhaps a death, their parents splitting up or school-related stresses. The most important thing, no matter what the cause, is making people feel better.
Another important factor is that it IS NOT only girls or only teenagers who suffer from eating disorders, guys and people over 20 CAN suffer from them too! It's important to remember that!
I don't know whether this technically counts as advice or whether it's the same things you hear from everybody, but, in my personal opinion, if you have an eating disorder, it's one of the most serious mental and physical conditions out there. Control and discipline are major elements and whilst I won't bombard you with facts and figures about eating disorders, I will say this: please, please tell someone. You can't win as big of a battle as this one on your own. Because you may think, through cutting all of this food out you have great self control and strength, but you're actually in one of the most weak and vunerable places you could possibly be in. If you don't feel like you can trust anyone right now, and often people suffering from eating disorders feel as though the WHOLE world is against them, please send me an email and I would happy to give you some more personal advice that is tailored to your own situation.
If you can't talk to anyone, if you can't eat, if you cant stop binge eating and then getting rid of that food later (nicest way possible to describe it!) then just think about the people around you. Whether you can trust them or not..just think. Your friends, family, people you love, people you look up to, either they're none the wiser and are going to completely beside themselves when you get rushed to hospital or collapse or they know or have noticed and are really scared and worried too.
It may seem as if you're completely in the dark and completely alone, but there are people there for you, including me, and I will not tell anyone or repeat any information. It might even make you feel slightly safer/better telling me, because I have no access to your parents or friends, so I would never be able nor would I ever tell them.
Please stay safe and well.
Katie xxx
Thursday 23 June 2011
Tuesday 21 June 2011
Advice For-Friendships.
heeyya,
One of those things that you always assume you can rely on is that your friends will always be there for you, and when they're not, sometimes you just honestly cannot understand why. Whether it's someone you thought you could trust going behind your back, or hearing something a friend has said about you that wasn't meant to get back to you, that has happened to everybody once before, and if people say it hasn't..it's most likely that they're the people saying or doing those things!
If I've learnt one thing, through personal experience, it's that it's very easy to rely on someone, but very hard to totally trust them, especially if you've had bad experiences with friends in the past. But not every friend you make is going to let you down, in fact, the majority of them won't. The most important thing to do, isn't to completely lay your heart on the line for friends, or to trust nobody and talk to nobody about anything important, but to find a happy medium. Decide for yourself you can trust, and if you get it wrong, well hey, you're only human.
Although people talk about broken hearts hurting most of all, I'd be inclined to say that losing a friend might have just as big of an effect, perhaps a bigger one, on a person.
Another important point is: never treat someone in a way in which you wouldn't want to be treated; meaning, if you talk about someone behind their back, don't be angry if they do it back, because, after all, you've done it too. Everybody has a right to say whatever they like, but don't have double standards, cos that will come back to bite you. Majorly. On top of all of this, you have to remember that things will change and people will change too, in fact, anything when it's given time, changes. And there's no way to stop it. Everything happens for a reason, some things suck and you wonder why, but in the end you will get something positive out of it, even if you don't realise that's why the good thing happened.
I'll leave you guys with a final quote: True friends are hard to find, difficult to leave and impossible to forget.
Live*Laugh*Love.
Katie xx.
One of those things that you always assume you can rely on is that your friends will always be there for you, and when they're not, sometimes you just honestly cannot understand why. Whether it's someone you thought you could trust going behind your back, or hearing something a friend has said about you that wasn't meant to get back to you, that has happened to everybody once before, and if people say it hasn't..it's most likely that they're the people saying or doing those things!
If I've learnt one thing, through personal experience, it's that it's very easy to rely on someone, but very hard to totally trust them, especially if you've had bad experiences with friends in the past. But not every friend you make is going to let you down, in fact, the majority of them won't. The most important thing to do, isn't to completely lay your heart on the line for friends, or to trust nobody and talk to nobody about anything important, but to find a happy medium. Decide for yourself you can trust, and if you get it wrong, well hey, you're only human.
Although people talk about broken hearts hurting most of all, I'd be inclined to say that losing a friend might have just as big of an effect, perhaps a bigger one, on a person.
Another important point is: never treat someone in a way in which you wouldn't want to be treated; meaning, if you talk about someone behind their back, don't be angry if they do it back, because, after all, you've done it too. Everybody has a right to say whatever they like, but don't have double standards, cos that will come back to bite you. Majorly. On top of all of this, you have to remember that things will change and people will change too, in fact, anything when it's given time, changes. And there's no way to stop it. Everything happens for a reason, some things suck and you wonder why, but in the end you will get something positive out of it, even if you don't realise that's why the good thing happened.
I'll leave you guys with a final quote: True friends are hard to find, difficult to leave and impossible to forget.
Live*Laugh*Love.
Katie xx.
Wednesday 1 June 2011
Q and As-PART2.
Helllooo:).
1.) What makeup do you wear in summer, when it's really hot?
A- We're lucky to get hot weather in the UK, but on holiday I always take a foundation/tinted moisturiser just in case I want it for evenings but usually just take a bronzer, blush, cream eyeshadow, kohl pencil, waterproof mascara and some lipglosses!
2.) What's the best way to deal with bullies?
A- I'm fortunate enough not to have experience with this kind of thing, but, to those who are being bullied currently or have been, just remember, it's the bully you should feel sorry for. Although what they're doing is horrible, imagine how bad they must feel about themselves to make another person feel terrible. Eleanor Roosevelt once said 'nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent' or something along those lines at least! :P stay strong and believe in yourself.
3.) Who are you style (fashion-wise) icons?
A- I love Lauren Conrad's style but I also love all of the girls' from the Saturdays' style and the way they mix highstreet with higher-end. Also Sienna Miller always looks amazing, especially for someone a little bit older than the previously mentioned girls :)
4.) Who are your style (makeup wise) icons?
A- Again I love Lauren Conrad's signature cat eye winged liner and bronzed California look. I always love the more outrageous makeup sported by Rihanna and Katy Perry.
5.) What is your favourite makeup brand?
A- I've always been a drugstore makeup girl at heart, and LOVE Collection 2000, Rimmel, Maybelline, L'Oreal and the rest...but lately I've been using a lot more MAC and Benefit, and unfortunately I suppose, joined the band wagon of absolutely loving the more expensive makeup!:L
6.) What's your favourite fashion piece at the moment?
A- There's quite a few! I love my chinos and the good old Jack Wills/Hollister trackies, but recently I bought two new Peter Pan collar shirts, one from River Island and my favourite one bought today from Topshop! :)
Anymore questions? send them to me :)xxx
1.) What makeup do you wear in summer, when it's really hot?
A- We're lucky to get hot weather in the UK, but on holiday I always take a foundation/tinted moisturiser just in case I want it for evenings but usually just take a bronzer, blush, cream eyeshadow, kohl pencil, waterproof mascara and some lipglosses!
2.) What's the best way to deal with bullies?
A- I'm fortunate enough not to have experience with this kind of thing, but, to those who are being bullied currently or have been, just remember, it's the bully you should feel sorry for. Although what they're doing is horrible, imagine how bad they must feel about themselves to make another person feel terrible. Eleanor Roosevelt once said 'nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent' or something along those lines at least! :P stay strong and believe in yourself.
3.) Who are you style (fashion-wise) icons?
A- I love Lauren Conrad's style but I also love all of the girls' from the Saturdays' style and the way they mix highstreet with higher-end. Also Sienna Miller always looks amazing, especially for someone a little bit older than the previously mentioned girls :)
4.) Who are your style (makeup wise) icons?
A- Again I love Lauren Conrad's signature cat eye winged liner and bronzed California look. I always love the more outrageous makeup sported by Rihanna and Katy Perry.
5.) What is your favourite makeup brand?
A- I've always been a drugstore makeup girl at heart, and LOVE Collection 2000, Rimmel, Maybelline, L'Oreal and the rest...but lately I've been using a lot more MAC and Benefit, and unfortunately I suppose, joined the band wagon of absolutely loving the more expensive makeup!:L
6.) What's your favourite fashion piece at the moment?
A- There's quite a few! I love my chinos and the good old Jack Wills/Hollister trackies, but recently I bought two new Peter Pan collar shirts, one from River Island and my favourite one bought today from Topshop! :)
Anymore questions? send them to me :)xxx
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